RELOCATION: How to Connect Easily

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Finding a repeatable and yet easy way to connect is the key to a successful relocation.
Why?
Because it’s the connections
that make relocation work.

WHO ARE YOU AFFILIATED WITH?

If you are an Texas Aggie in London (London A&M Club) or a Manchester United Fan now in Miami (Miami Manchester United Fan Club), chances are those strong affiliations will be easy to find.  Why?  Because some organizationS establish themselves wherever their members wander to.

Traditionally, these “affiliations” are established through what you have done and participated in before and sometimes the ones you LOVE.

LET’S START OPENING THOSE DOORS

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List it out:

  • What you like to do
  • Groups you belong to
  • Group or charity you think you would like
  • Teams you LOVE

And then there are the ones you may not think of….

 WHO YOU ARE
AND WHAT YOU HAVE DONE

As simple as birth.  Strong affiliations and groups exist just for being born to a certain culture, like being Jewish.  Other birth related groups are bloodline but not culture specific, like Daughters of the American Revolution or the Magna Carta.

Others are established through choice.  Are you an Eagle Scout, Silver Award Girl Scout or did you attend a University where their alumni wear their rings for life?

These types of alumni seek each other out.  It is a club that comes from a shared experience.  It’s as if they have a secret language between them.

NO AFFILIATIONS, NO PROBLEM

Do not despair.  There are plenty opportunities to choose from.

Starting with some of the national and international organization will be an excellent place to start, especially if there is a chance of another relocation.

A mother of pre-schoolers?  MOPS is one of the national US groups that gives immediate access to other mothers in this stage of life.  With childcare provided, this give the moms time to get to know one another and perhaps begin new friendships.

No children?  No worries.  Look into clubs like Lions Club, Kiwannas and Rotary.  These clubs focus in on providing eye glasses and water in 3rd world areas, improving the local community, networking and even nearly eliminating Polio.

https://www.rotary.org/en

No matter what local club you walk into, by looking at their about page you will know what they values.  For example, Rotary’s core values are demonstrated by “Four Way Test” which is repeated at every meeting around the world.

  • Is it the TRUTH?
  • Is it FAIR to all concerned?
  • Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?
  • Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?

It provides consistency of purpose and atmosphere, everywhere.

IT’S LIKE BUILT IN FRIENDS…

By joining one of the national or international groups/charities, it’s like walking into to a group of friends.

On some level, you already know each other.

And walking into one of their meetings in Fort Myers or Amsterdam, brings that introduction before the first hello.  The sign in host will most likely greet you with an excitement reserved for a long lost loved one.

NOW IT IS TIME TO MEET THE LOCALS

Step forward in confidence that you will meet locals who will be happy to meet you.

Whether or not you stay long term, you will meet REAL Locals.  They will love to share what they know about the community and show a willingness to help as you settle in.

Click on the Easy Connecting Resource Guide for more ideas on how to meet the locals..

Have a wonderful week and we will catch you next week with:

RELOCATION: Simple Steps to knowing where you live

RELOCATION: Search & find what you Love!


A Mom Scavenger HUNT!

Finding what we love after relocation is a lot like a scavenger hunt.  You have a list and a general location, but not much else.  Discovering what to search is key.

OLD SCHOOL GARAGE SALE-ING

Back in the 80s, Mom and I got to figure this one out through garage sale-ing after our move to Dallas from Atlanta.  In Atlanta, the Garage Sale paper would appear every week in our mailbox.  This community guide detailed items for sale and ALL of the garage sales that weekend.

Once in Dallas, we figured this would be a fun way to learn about how to get around. However, there were no Green Sheets.  In fact, there was no garage sale source anywhere.  Dallas was all about the newspapers, both major and community.  Even those didn’t include very much, so mostly we drove around  to find them.

WHERE SHOULD I SEARCH?

The primary source of information varies from community to community and from activity to activity.

In Minnesota, information primarily came through through the community education department in each school district.  There was always an abundance of activities for everyone from learning Spanish and reading to dogs in the library to senior trips to Europe.

Atlanta proved more difficult.  The school district had limited events and opportunities outside of the school day.  In this area, online searches for specific group or location searches were the key. For example, Atlanta area moms group or Lake Lanier events proved much more effective than searching for a central source.

And then in Dallas Fort Worth, I found a number of printed sources that would keep track of festivals, educational seminars and kids events.  Between Ft Worth Child, Suburban Parents and Texas Highways, I could find what I needed while exploring the greater area.

THE WEB ~

The secret is to know what to search in every place.  I suggest the following “just general enough” types of searches:

  • (City name) magazine, events, calendar, chamber of commerce
  • (State name) magazine, events, calendar
  • (City/County name) Garden/womens/MOPs/Newcomers/etc. Club, Group or Association
  • National Local Clubs – Rotary/Lions/Kiwanis/Sorority/Fraternaty/College/etc.
  • Meetups – Moms/Writers/Language practice/nurses/music/etc
  • Religious Studies – BSF/MOPS/Bible Study/Prayer groups
  • Moms day out – a infant/pre-school Southern thing
  • Local (type specific) shops – biker/English EXPATs/running clubs & groups
  • School district & school specific PTA/Gifted and Talented/Moms
  • All of the surrounding city Parks and Recreation Events/Magazine/Newsletter
  • Facebook for all the above

ENGAGE! ~ Yes you need to call,
possibly email,
or just show up
😉

Most of what you will find, does not require an RSVP.  Showing up at a local club (Rotary, Garden, PTA, etc.) or a of course something like a bike shop is pretty easy.  Ask some questions, get on the newsletter email list and start to connect.

If your favorite activity/sport/club isn’t listed, call around.  The local Chambers of Commerce will have people answering the phone that will give you information about their members, as well as the area they live in.

No one to call?  The public libraries have research desks, for You.  Call the research desk and ask.  Nothing is too mundane or crazy.

The bonus to showing up or calling, is that by visiting or calling you will meet people who want to talk to you.  Chances are they will be willing to answer future questions, too.

BUT, WHAT IF YOU CAN’T DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT??

Sometimes as moms, we just don’t know what we want.  After being so busy crafting lives for those around us…Frankly, we forget.
Click on the Next blog to learn more about YOU

Relocation: Discovering who YOU are!

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